The Fire Of Safe Flirting

Have you ever felt like you turned into a pair of managers running a small business called 'Our Home'? Between paying bills, coordinating who picks up the kids, washing the mountain of dishes, and planning the weekly menu, it is incredibly easy to forget that before being teammates, you were lovers. Marriage can quietly slip into the dreaded 'roommate mode', where efficiency replaces passion, and physical contact is limited to an accidental bump in the hallway.

But God did not design marriage to be a boring board of directors. The book of the Song of Solomon is the biblical proof that the Lord loves holy flirting between spouses. Marital holiness is not at odds with being irresistible to each other; in fact, the exclusivity that the marriage covenant gives us is the safest and most fun ground to ignite the spark of romance. God wants us to look at each other with constant desire, just as Solomon looked at his beloved.

When we stop flirting, we stop sending a vital message: 'I still choose you, you still enchant me, you still have my full attention'. We often underestimate the power of visual and verbal attraction in our daily lives. We think romance only happens at that anniversary dinner or during a costly vacation, forgetting that the real flame is kept alive with small logs of everyday fire.